What is emotional intelligence?
There is wisdom that appears to us when we acknowledge that there is a knowledge inside us that empowers us to be able to handle our own feelings and to know that our emotions are our own. This is to state that we are a hundred percent accountable for how we feel and not anyone else.
When we understand that our emotions are just our own reactions to a provided situation and not the doing of some external forces, we essentially stop playing victim and start to take responsibility for exactly how we feel.
The ability to determine and manage our own feelings and to comprehend the emotions of individuals around us is emotional intelligence.
This knowledge follows 4 phases: Self-awareness, self-management, social awareness and relationship management. The first two stages relate to comprehending our habits and ourselves. The last 2 phases underline the value of comprehending others, and their behavior.
Success does not develop happiness and love in life.
The idea that success produces happiness is commonly followed by statements like ‘When I attain this, just then will I finally be pleased’, for there are numerous effective individuals, given that our concept of success is commonly figured out in monitory terms, who do not have love and are not pleased at all.
So if success does not develop happiness and love, then exactly what does? The response lies within the core emotional intelligence.
At the core of emotional intelligence is self-awareness.
Adam smith as soon as stated that, “The first thing you have to know is yourself. A man who understands himself can step outdoors himself and view his own reactions like an observer.” At the core of understanding ‘thyself’ is taking obligation for all that you are and so if success does not produce love and happiness in your life, then accountabling for your very own love and joy along emotional intelligence does.
What does it suggest to be self-aware?
To be self-aware simply is to be mindful of your ideas, mindsets, habits and emotions, to have a clear understanding of all that makes you who you are and to be able to handle and control those feelings.
There is a rather easy means of handling these feelings. In a world system where every individual is over stimulated with hundreds of little bits of details flooding the mind, a course to gaining control over the mind is just to come to an area of sensation safe and unwinded.
The concept of reflection, understood to man by lots of adjectives like reflection, self-questioning, rumination or reflection, is just bringing the mind to a relaxed altered state of awareness where things appear to make sense, where the mind is not flooded but is calm and observant of the really thoughts and feelings that are otherwise is frustrating.
To any form of mind-calming exercise there are three common signals to the brain; initially is to close the eyes, the second to focus on slow-moving deep breaths and the 3rd is to relax all muscle stress in the body. With doing this follows an extensive realization that one is responsible and has conscious control over his sensations and ideas.
If we are accountable for exactly how we feel, then why do we feel harmed?
Criticizing others for hurting us is just like criticizing someone for poking you in a place that was already bruised. It is not the poking alone that hurt, but it is just poking at the bruise that harms. Likewise, all of us are mentally bruised as an outcome of our past scenarios, and when people poke at those locations.
We can either continue criticizing the person stating they harm us, or remain to get hurt on the exact same bruise time and once more, or simply heal the bruise rather. Healing the swelling rather is taking responsibility for how you feel, dropping the concept that other individuals accountable for your love and joy.
In conclusion, to be emotionally smart is to be self-aware, empowering ourselves and possessing the responsibility for our own feelings of love and joy rather of playing continuous sufferer to the world outside us.
Therefore, being mentally intelligent will expose to you real peace and joy, as long as you choose to produce it, since exactly how you feel is exactly how you decide to feel.
Beejal Parmar – Founder & Senior Partner, Real Aim Solutions
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